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SINGLE MUMS DATING DIARY APRIL

1st April Time to think - plenty It's my turn to have the kids this weekend so I'm not dating but it gives me some time to sought things out in my head. I really enjoy Dan's company but I'm not sure the real spark is there. I know I'd like to see him again - we're meeting for lunch on Tuesday and I'm really looking forward to it - but... Of course I haven't even met Simon yet, although it is on the cards. I'm not suggesting he IS the one or anything, I know from experience now that I do need to meet someone face to face before I make any decisions. But, he does appear very easy on the eye from his photo and I look forward to his emails. I am now convinced though, that keeping my options open until I am in a relationship is definitely the right thing to do. Top

3rd April
Cancelled Dates - 1
Well, I guess that solves my dilemma! Dan cancelled our date for tomorrow. Apparently he had also been keeping his options open and I was his backup plan! (to be fair, that's not quite how he put it). He has now decided to have an exclusive relationship with a girl he's been seeing for a few weeks and he thinks she's the one. I know I was doing exactly the same thing and Dan has done nothing wrong at all but I'm still miffed. I haven't been dumped since... oh, last year. We won't go there!

6th April
New dates - 1
I'm now fully recovered from my completely unjustified huff about Dan cancelling me. It shows he is the decent bloke I thought he was and that I was right in thinking we weren't the perfect match. I hope all goes well for him. See, I can be very grown up and civilised about these things can't I. It does of course help that I'm seeing Simon on Saturday...just lunch at a pub, suitably low key I feel!

12th April
New contacts - 0
Where has everybody gone? Just as I was having fun they've all abandoned me!

15th April
New responses - 3. Interesting - 0
Interestingly, 2 of the responses I've had are from people who I have already ignored or dropped contact with. Either they are forgetful or they think I must be getting desperate by now as I'm still there. The other one looks OK but just doesn't stand out in any way. I'm really not up for Mr Mediocre, I want that something a little special - I'm not so desperate YET that I don't think I deserve it. Anyway, a quiet weekend with the kids and a couple of the girls around tonight is exactly what I want right now. Life is good.

6th April
Hangovers - 1. Advice - Countless
Easter Sunday and the last thing I feel like right now is chocolate. So at least the kids Easter eggs are safe for once. An Alka Seltzer and coffee are about my limit this morning! I'm having a lie in while the kids blitz on chocolate uninterrupted. Heaven for all of us I'd say! As usual last nights alcohol fuelled advice was of a mixed quality - ranging from the helpful to the outright ridiculous. I'm not convinced that all the best men have been kidnapped by aliens yet, I do think there may be a chance of finding just one! Some of the more constructive comments suggested I might be attracting the wrong people either through my photos or my profile. Do they have any clue how hard all that was first time round? I certainly don't feel hugely motivated to redo it all!

18th April
Profile revisited - 1
Kids are (finally) back at school today after what seems like an eternity! I've got a day off work so I've taken the opportunity to look at myself online and think about what impression I'm giving. Well, it's not really rocket science. I'm getting fed up with meeting mediocre people (I know that sounds mean but that's not what I want from this) but, my profile etc on the dating site is just that - mediocre! I look average and sound just like everyone else. There must be something interesting about me! I'm open to suggestions

25th April
Changes underway - 1
I'm finally admitting defeat. I've had the usual round of contacts and responses this week but nothing any different from what's gone previously. I am going wrong somewhere and the profile is the most obvious place to start. I'm getting some photos done just for the site by a friend who is fairly useful with a camera. My previous ones were taken before Christmas at a party and I did have to cut round someone in one of them. Apparently, that looks like I've been cutting my ex out of all my photos and can tend to shriek "bunny boiler" as well as not looking too bothered about making an effort for the dating process. So, I'll smile sweetly, but kill my mate if she doesn't eliminate all traces of a double chin and wrinkles!

I know I need to do some rewriting too, but that's a bit more daunting and I need to enlist some help I think. Maybe the new photos will inspire me!

28th April
Interesting responses - 0. New Profiles written - 0
Well it's hard enough first time but then to realise it's not working either indicates there's something wrong with me or my writing, so I'm feeling pretty fed up all round really. I am sort of happy with my new photos though. I do a least look sober and relatively normal so that's a good start. I'm not going to post them until I get this profile sorted though. I might even try a different dating site…..at least there's a chance not everyone will have seen me already!